I was invited to be on a Blog Talk Radio show last night. It is an odd experience for me to have someone I didn’t yet know very well personally email me and invite me to speak. I was pleased and I’ll admit somewhat tickled that anyone would be interested in hearing me talk.
This was actually the third radio program I’ve been invited to since last summer. The first one was part of the inaugural series for a virtual wellness program launched my friend and beloved Reiki teacher, Libby Barnett. She asked me to speak about the benefits meditation and lead a short practice. The second, Jacquie and I were invited to be on our friend Liz Scala’s program last fall to discuss our Annual Conference for Reiki Practitioners which we founded and organize.
This time, it was Violet Rose Reiki (for Violet Reiki Radio), but there wasn’t a topic. Omigosh, there wasn’t a topic! I was concerned about having to talk about myself. My inner critic kept saying "who wants to hear about you?" “Your story isn't interesting enough to be on a radio show.”
It turned out well, much better than I had expected. A couple people even said they enjoyed the show. Honestly though, how could it be worse than expected with that inner critic?
Fun things are often outside our comfort zone and “growth” is almost always. The interviews have all been fun and most certainly opportunities for personal growth. Perhaps there’s hope yet that I’ll get comfortable with speaking because I find myself this morning happily looking forward to the next time.
I think Sir Richard Branson said “If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you're unsure how to do it, say yes, and learn how to do it later.” I’ve been following that advice for the past couple years and it seems to be working out well.
Most importantly, something in my perspective has shifted.
I've expanded the phrase to include saying yes if my only hesitation is that it’s outside my comfort zone or I’m concerned I might not be ready. I recommend if it is something you’d like to do, but are afraid to - say yes anyway, in spite of the concern, if that’s what you really want to say. Then, after you say yes, get to work on preparing yourself - the "learning how."
In the past I always wanted to be fairly sure about my ability complete a project or task that I was asked to do before I accepted - to be I sure I was the right person for the job. I think it came from not wanting to let anyone down, including myself.
After practicing this new M.O. for a while, I’ve started to look at these opportunities differently now. Often there's still that familiar concern at first. That “oh no, can I do that?” thought pops up, but I’ve started to follow that thought with a new one - “if I weren’t qualified or capable on some level, the opportunity wouldn’t have come to me and I wouldn’t have been asked.”
Often others can see it in you before you see it in yourself.
Am I still afraid? Sometimes yes, particularly about speaking in public, but I’ve started to trust that somewhere inside I am up to the task whether I feel that initially or not.
I challenge you to look at your opportunities a little differently too. Is it something you want to jump at, but hesitate? Who would you be without that hesitation? What if you said “yes” anyway and figured it out later? Who knows where that might lead you?
I think it could change your life. It seems to be changing mine.